August 28, 2013;

Well, it's been hell.  Yesterday it began with my daughter and my boss having mini strokes at work and now today.  My youngest daughter has two children with two different fathers who are lets say low on the IQ and high on the alcohol and recreational drug list.  Since her issue with the law, they decided to put her through the ringer until the court situation is over.  That's another month away.  So she is to have supervised visitation in her home but the fathers chose her schizophrenic sister to supervise the visitation....nice.  She's manic not taking her meds living with a creep of unknown......anything.  So she dropped the kids and left.  Nice.  So needless to say the lawyer was called and both my oldest and I will be in court to testify to the middle daughter's schizophrenia and her manic state.  Lovely.

Schizophrenics are interesting when they're manic they put off an aura about them..  very aggressive, ready to fight,  angry.  I'd say at this rate she hasn't been taking her meds for about a month, that would put her here.  She's stealing from the family. 

Well she came back but not before one of the father's was called and told about it, unfortunately it was the one with fewer brain cells so he always throws tantrums, screams, drinks too much, thinks he's a real man and can't complete a sentence.  Oh well.  Choose carefully who you give access to your ovaries..........seriously.

My life was once very quiet, there was no drama, but when you deal with fathers and visitations that involve exes that are all young and their emotional it's a mess.  It's unfortunate none of them are mature enough to handle their relationships without court orders and law enforcement.  It's like saying: Hello I didn't grow up I didn't get my way I'm mad at you for our breakup and I'm going to split the child in half and we're gonna fight over her/him for the rest of our lives.

The joke is on them though, the kids grow up.  Then they don't have a reason to continue communication and keep that contact and then what will they do for entertainment they won't be able to use the child to get to the other person anymore Oh My God!!!!  And what????? you want to go live with your mother/father?  I can't force you to do what I want????  And what??? you found out I lied the whole time about her/him and ohoh I wasn't able to hide the fact that I'm an asshole???? So you figured out why they left???? Whhhooooooops, my bad. 

As adults you can tell the kids anything you want.  But buyer beware, they will figure out the truth.  They're like little sleuths, they'll search and search, look at pictures you've hidden away, they'll find the divorce papers, court orders, restraining orders and .......oh yea I forgot to tell you the school taught them how to read LOL.  So they read and they read.  And then they wait until they are adults and they say things like mom, dad lied to us he said blah, blah, blah, about you and we found the divorce papers that's not what happened. 

One of the most beautiful days was when after my husband cleaned me out he, well actually his lovely new wifie....yea,  took my wedding dress and hung it on the tree in their front yard for the yard sale in front of my daughters.  Isnt that nice.  She really worked hard on promoting that relationship you know fostering that stepmother/daughter bond.  It didn't work out they both ended up hating her and if that wasn't bad enough her sons hated her too.  WOW. 

Anyway that is where all of the fighting over visitation and kids gets you.  You have to ask yourself why do you fight over the child.  I believe the child is leverage used by the parent to hurt the other parent for all of the pain you felt inside from the breakup. 

In the end it backfires.  You finally go your way your ex finally goes his way and the child is the one left with the all baggage and anger from the divorce.  And on to his or her first relationship......divorce?