March, 21, 2013

I read a saying from Bob Marley today "If she's amazing she won't be easy.  If she's easy she won't be amazing.  If she's worth it, you won't give up.  If you give up you're not worthy...Truth is, everybody is going to hurt you; you just gotta find the one's worth suffering for"  Bob Marley. 

I always wondered about being too difficult, expecting excellence from myself and the person I will be with in character, intelligence and heart.  I don't feel that way anymore and anyone that can't step up should step aside and that's okay there is only one person that needs to be able to hit the ball out of the park, it's not something everyone can do and it's not a job everyone wants, it takes expertise that not everyone has. 

The problem is that it takes a while of watching someone live their life before you begin to see their character unfold.  Kinks in the armour, serious character flaws that are supposedly well hidden.  Those are the things that will cause your heart to turn away with time such as a lack of drive or ambition, lack of integrity, laziness, a lack of honesty and fortitude.  One of the worst I believe is the inability to see things through, to make excuses and quit on projects once the shine has worn off. 

One of the most honorable things in a man is the work ethic.  Work.  How hard is it to work.  Earn an honest living and work every day.  Don't make up excuses of why you can't work or you need time off or you just can't handle it...........A good woman hates a whiner, waaaaah, waaaaaah, waaaaaah, I'm so miserable, unhappy waaaaaaah, babies do that, but a man?  Is this the same man that will want you to get all hot and bothered over him? Really?  Are you serious.  

If you're life is so out of control and you are so miserable then change it.  If you are not going to change it shut up.  If you can't steer the course of your own life don't stick your oar into someone elses and try to steer theirs.  Really? 

I learned an important lesson, knowing someone like this is draining and boring and saying goodbye is the best medicine because they are not going to grow up, they are going to use you as some type of empty container they can dump all of their trash into and then walk away until they need you the next time around. 

Even if they want to stick around

RUN they are unworthy.