January 28, 2013

So one of my girls who left her husband decided to try her hand at a booty call.  Something casual, easy, no strings just some fun.  Well, she liked it for a minute and then one day sitting in the livingroom she decided it wasn't for her.  She began crying and saying she just didn't know what got into her why did she try it what was she thinking? 

Well she answered the question so many of us ask after we've been with the same person for 10, 15, 20 years and then separated, divorced whatever.  Sex without love is sex and if that's all your after then fine.  But it won't fill the hole and emptiness in your heart and it won't fix anything.  It will make you feel good for a little while and then you're right back where you started.....alone.  Oh she had fun it was fun but having a family, a marriage and the security were worth way more.  Then she cried, why wasn't she enough in their marriage why did he need drugs?  Now there's a question, and I don't have the answer.  But I do know that if she wants the marriage and family with a wonderful man she will have to be selective and do a little waiting, she won't find it in the bar.  And before she does that she needs to grieve the relationship she lost and learn about herself first. 

Life's a journey, enjoy it.  Be kind to yourself, don't let other people treat you any less than wonderful and don't you treat the people around you anything less than wonderful.  And above all else don't forget the kids they're awesome.